The One Question to Avoid Asking for Good Coaching Client Outcomes
Jennifer Ellis-Schuetz 
As coaching professionals, our primary goal is to facilitate transformative journeys for our clients, guiding them through self-discovery and personal growth.
Coaching Skills Make a Big Difference
Effective coaching hinges on our ability to listen and respond and the powerful questions we ask.
While thoughtful inquiries can unlock insights and foster deep connections, one particular question, when posed, can undermine rapport and hinder progress.
In our latest YouTube video, “What One Question to Avoid Asking for Good Coaching Client Outcomes,” we delve into this critical aspect of coaching communication.
Research in coaching psychology consistently highlights the importance of rapport in the coaching relationship. Building and maintaining trust enables clients to open up, explore their vulnerabilities, and engage in candid conversations. However, certain questions can inadvertently create defensiveness or disengagement, thereby stifling the very growth we aim to foster.
The ONE Word that Can Be Triggering
The question we urge coaches to avoid is, “Why do you feel that way?” While it may seem innocuous, this inquiry often puts clients on the defensive, prompting them to justify their feelings rather than explore them. This can lead to a breakdown in communication, causing clients to retreat into their shells instead of embracing the vulnerability necessary for transformation.
Types of Questions to Ask Instead
Instead, we encourage coaches to adopt a more exploratory approach. Questions like “What led you to that feeling?” or “Can you share more about that experience?” invite clients to reflect and articulate their emotions without the pressure of justification. These alternative inquiries promote a deeper understanding and create a safe space for clients to express themselves openly.
In the video, we provide practical tips and examples to illustrate the impact of questions on the coaching dynamic. We will explore various coaching scenarios, highlighting how a simple shift in phrasing can lead to more profound insights and stronger connections.
As we continue refining our coaching techniques, we must remain mindful of the language we use. By avoiding that one detrimental question and embracing a more supportive dialogue, we can enhance our coaching efficacy and, ultimately, deliver even greater outcomes for our clients.
Join us in this enlightening discussion, and let's elevate our coaching practices together.
First published on October 16th, 2024. We update accordingly as new information and insights emerge.
